LOVING WHEN IT IS HARDEST

I often tell my friends that it’s easy to follow the scriptural instruction to “love your enemies and pray for those who curse you”—when you have no known enemies.

We all laughed and debated the point over some delicious Nsala soup my wife, Linda, had prepared. But just a few days later, my friend Roland stormed into my office, fuming about being passed over for promotion again and receiving a lower bonus last year.

Before I could even say, “Bros, calm down,” Roland blurted out, “God will punish my boss and the entire management for treating me so badly!”

Smiling, I encouraged him to pause and think. I’ve been in his shoes before. I told him that anger wouldn’t solve anything and that it’s in moments like these that we need to choose forgiveness and love—no matter how hard it feels.

I reminded him of the scripture that says, “The hearts of kings are in the palm of God’s hands.” Sometimes, in this our Nigeria, promotions don’t happen because of your talent or hard work. You even sometimes don't get promoted because someone above you fears your growth. Still, I’ve seen God move the hearts of even wicked men in my favour.

The real challenge isn’t when life is smooth; it’s when you have to deal with people who deeply hurt you:

A friend who always dupes you in business.
A husband who cheats.
A father who never provides for his family.
A so-called friend who’s never there when you need them, etc.

These are the ones who don’t deserve the titles we’ve given them, and it’s easy to think of them as enemies. But the question is this: can you truly wish them well and trust God for their redemption?

For me, I strive to take the excellent way—to love my enemies and pray for those who curse me. It’s not always easy, but it’s always better.

YOU TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK, IS IT POSSIBLE TO LOVE WHEN IT IS HARDEST.

Enjoy the rest of your Sunday, oh. 😊

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